why you keep falling for emotionally unavailable people (and how to stop being needy)

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VIDEO CHAPTERS:
1:50 — Common things avoidants do and say
6:15 — How anxious people respond to a withdrawn avoidant
11:45 — The anxious-avoidant trap: why anxious always seek out avoidants
16:45 — "Why am I so needy?"
24:01 — "Why does my partner feel like my whole world?"
26:16 — Avoidant red flags to look out for
29:11 — How to vet and find a secure partner
34:15 — How to differentiate between your gut feeling versus your anxiety

There’s a reason you keep finding yourself in relationships that feel like a rollercoaster—intense, consuming, and deeply confusing. It’s not because you’re broken or "too much." It’s because your attachment system is wired to seek the familiar, even when it hurts.

In this video, I’ll guide you through the hidden patterns of anxious and avoidant attachment dynamics—so you can finally stop mistaking anxiety for love and start vetting for the kind of relationship that feels safe, secure, and truly nourishing.

You deserve a relationship that feels like peace, not a guessing game. May this video be a gentle compass, guiding you back to your worth—and toward the kind of love that meets you fully.

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