@Ali-nx8gh
You're correct! Clutter comes from feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, frozen
@1HorseOpenSlay
Because we've all been sitting here surrounded by stuff, wondering " what the heck is my problem?why can't I get this place cleaned up!" And then you so kindly explained why we are doing this. ❤❤❤
@psychic_rose0708
Recognize that decluttering isn’t just a physical process, it’s emotional. Be kind to yourself and understand that it may take time to let go of things that represent deeper emotional wounds.
@feliciadunlap4307
This is a frequently overlooked symptom and one that shows up for people who may be in deep denial of their trauma. I educated my mother about this, she has a master’s degree in social work, and she had no idea that clutter and hoarding were trauma symptoms. She sees it as being lazy. As someone who has both trauma and ADHD, this video definitely resonated with me. I definitely struggle with this one as well as the shame around it. Many of us have been judged as being lazy and/or slobs, and this triggers shame for us. We want to get organized, but the emotional triggering and decision fatigue involved can be overwhelming. That pile of mail that accumulated during my divorce? Full of bills that I couldn’t pay= shame. Also full of reminders of my marriage= trauma. More difficult negative emotions I have to deal with. It’s easier to just leave it until next weekend.
@goldenhoneybee8128
Having clutter...being messy is SHAMEFUL. It is debilitating and humiliating in a way that those who are not affected by it cannot even imagine
@mk11111
You are 1. Informative 2. Authentic 3. Convey an enormous amount of empathy 4. Easy to listen to multiple times 5. You offer encouragement AND SOLUTIONS.
@vanitamann7985
I want to say something but don't know for sure how or what to say. My house is what I call broken. My husband of almost 47 years has 2 different types of mesothelioma and one is very aggressive. I took one of our dogs to the vet this morning and she has heart worms that cannot be treated at this stage. I deal with depression along with other illnesses and we are raising a 16 year old grandson whom I'm so thankful for. We raised his sister who is 21 now and she's a blessing, too. My home stays so messy and cluttered that I don't allow people inside. My 55 year old stepson is living with us and will hopefully find another place to live soon. He's been here for 10 months. I'm really struggling these days. I guess I just wanted to get this off of my chest. Thank you for allowing me to do that.
@lauriepowell3959
My house is currently full of piles and boxes of things I want to donate or trash or put in their proper places. I am overwhelmed. It occurs to me that they are physical armor to protect me and hide from the outside world. I realized long ago that I always put on excess weight when I feel threatened, helpless or unworthy and unwanted. I mentally refer to that as “BODY ARMOR” to keep people away. (Who could possibly love me when I am this fat and unattractive? I won’t venture outside until I lose these 90 pounds) The “HOME ARMOR” is serving the same purpose. Trying to protect myself from more trauma when I already have more trauma than I can handle. PS I am currently in bed, trying to “Allow” myself get up and stand in line for early voting in this Presidential election. It is something that matters very much to me, to do now, with a deadline, and I am frozen. PSS: Glad to say I looked up the wait times for the voting site and at 6:00 pm Monday night there was no line, no wait time. In and out in under 10 minutes. So glad I dragged myself there at that time.
@wmh1626
My husband is a hoarder, I was a "minimalist" coming into the relationship. My husband's poverty mentality keeps him hanging onto EVERYTHING, even broken objects. He freezes when he tries to work through the clutter. He ends up just sitting down and going through old photos, then puts them back in the same bag. It's a very interesting, relatable, frustrating and even fascinating subject-- I think that's why the video blew up. Thank you 💖🥰!
@audreythompson8107
My gran always told us that the state of our surroundings reflected the state of our minds... She encouraged us to take stock of what we were holding onto and bringing into our lives.
@clws9673
the answer to clutter is not decluttering, it's re-regulation i found this video a year and a half ago, while depressed and surrounded by clutter. you were literally describing my environment around me. and the "silverware story" and the "full cupboard feeling" sounded like you knew exactly what i was dealing with.
@junkfoodvegan
Most people who are hoarders don't have a laymen understanding of why they are compulsive with their cluttering. Your video made it more palatable without judgement
@Ninaoutoftheblue
I think this video is so popular because its groundbreaking - when I first viewed it I was floored by the idea that all my clutter was a symptom CPTSD - it was mindblowing but it made so many things make sense - and suddenly my clutter could be treatable - because it was now understandable. I also think its popular because real people have clutter - and then you address each type - in a way that makes each one seem manageable - it's very affirming and hopeful.
@susanvoog8131
Here's why this stood out to me, perhaps it resonates with others this way too. 1. The zeightgeist tells folks who clutter " just fix it" . If we could fix it that easily, we WOULD! 2. You acknowledge the REALITY of what purpose clutter serves, without judgment. This fosters within me(and hopefully others) a desire to change. I have a support behind me to help me along the way. ❤
@amyfox9659
I have MS. It wasn't diagnosed until after divorcing a sociopath that identified with my mother and her treatment of me. The black sheep. I can't let go of my great/ grandparents/;great Aunts etc.. who help me find my passions for life. Gardening, sewing, crochet, artistry. I can't let go of the items I inherited from them and having those objects that remind me of them. The aluminum cookware. Etc. I have the food utensils and the non food craft items. It's so painful to get rid of a rusty sieve from grandmother, I bawl. I knew she truely loved me and protected me.
@rando42069
Okay, it's our turn to print out the video transcript and circle parts in red that we want to go back to lol
@amadahyrose
Thank you. I'm struggling a lot with papers now (bills, mail, etc). I literally sat a whole day in my recliner looking at it, ashamed that i couldn't find the energy to act. I should have some time this week, so wish me well. Thanks again. ❤️
@throttle4593
I was very poor as a child and as a young adult and have this problem. What's interesting is my son and daughter both have similar issues, "Oh, I might need this some day," and they were never forced to go without. I kept everything tidy until after they had moved out. It makes me sad how much my issues impacted my kids, even though I thought kept them hidden.
@rezazazu
The amount of honesty and virtue you emit Anna is beyond my wildest imaginary scenarios. The way you feel relaxed when talking about your own childhood truama experiences and how you laugh it all off! You are a wonderful human being and I can see that in every video you share here. Believe it or not you're that much better than the therapist I spent years with. Thanks for existing and keep up this HUMANLY VALUABLE job of yours Ms. Crappy Childhood Fairy. 💕
@CrappyChildhoodFairy