@Frank7489
Most ppl don’t initiate conversation. Most ppl don’t attempt to make plans with others. If you do those 2 things regularly you’ll be more social than 90% of ppl
@cuev6342
"becoming social is easy" - proceeds to a 28 minute straighton masterclass about human psychology and social mechanics absolutely packed with information I myself had no idea about I literally took a pen and notebook for this much appreciate the knowledge! killer work
@dennist.9579
I'm 31, I used to be a social butterfly back in my early 20s. Somewhere down the line I became so busy with work I forgot to socialise again. Before I knew it social interactions became hard. Thanks for the reminder that social skills are a muscle that needs to be worked on or it'll become rusty.
@Eddison33
So, you have to: actively listen, try to be curious about things that you don't really care about, practice regularly and put yourself into certain situations, theorize about every person's alter-egos and public perceptions, notice patterns and pick threads in conversations, memorize and store important facts to use later, align your body language and intonation, keep track of changes of your correspondent's body language/ voice tone, keep track of contexts established in previous conversations, share vulnerabilities strategically, create situations with shared experiences, understand all the social contexts you're in, analyse group dynamics and understand the roles of people involved in a group, moderate the group to ensure everyone's involvement, establish boundaries and respect the others' boundaries, understand the underlying psychological mechanisms... and all of that is supposed to be 'NATURAL'!)
@captainjirk9564
I met a level 100 socialite the other day, it was so unnerving. She knew exactly what to say. I felt like I was being conned the whole time. She worked for the government or something, she rubbed elbows with politicians and high-level people all the time, she knew how to play the game, it was insane watching her work.
@Chiefs555
I worked in sales for a majority of my adult life. I can walk into any room, meet every single person, and make a new friend. My wife says i have the "gift of gab," but in reality, i just dont care. I know chances are i will never see most of these people ever again. You have to practice this skill. The truth is that everyone is nervous and has the same insecure conversations in their own heads. The ones that keep practicing learn how to control that little voicevand after a while, that voice becomes a wisper. The one piece of advice i will say is that people love, and i mean LOVE, to talk about themselves. Let them brag and ask them questions about what they are passionate about they will open up like a book. I can have a 30-minute conversation and never say a word about my own life. Best of luck. Get out there and make a friend
@anthonykf99
I am 25. I have delt with severe social anxiety and ADHD since I was around 12 to basically 21. I used to be inside gaming everyday after school, no friends or ambitions. I got scared to just talk with people online. But now I consider myself to be a social butterfly. The thing is to put yourself out there and try. I got into cars and went to car meets alone. The first few times were embarrasing and I did go home crying from a panic attack the first time I went. But eventually, it got less and less scary. I made like minded friends and eventually became comfortable with being uncomfortable. Now at 25, I still have a bit of social anxiety, but not crippling me to be a homebody 24/7. In fact, I can now start and hold conversations myself with random people. Use your interests and get out there! It will get easier, I promise. You will embarrass yourself and make core cringe memories, but that's progress.
@solmu1037
Awkward silence when you meet another listening 70%
@b351vrthsdf
My social skills: 1% actual skill, 99% hoping the other person talks first.
@notapplicable7810
One of the things I've noticed with others is that sometimes when I'm genuinely interested in something that someone does it's possible that it's mundane and boring to them.
@ClearestOptics
This is the one socializing video/explainer that actually makes me excited to socialize. This is by far the best breakdown of social interaction that I’ve ever seen
@BeInnovativeToday
I am hyper social and it is because I fundamental because I want to know what people think, what they like, what drives them! Be interested in someone it is key!
@ultimobile
today I walked up to a stranger in a bookshop and asked about her hair braids - we had a lovely conversation - I ended up inviting her to join us for a meal - she gave me her contact and messaged me saying she wished we could talk more - and later she expressed excitement to meet next week - so yeah choose to talk to strangers every day and it can become natural and easy - and fun ! 😊😊
@Vanna-gg7fb
i used to have social anxiety so bad to the point i couldn’t even make eye contact with my peers. i had to get a job and that’s what made me come out of it, i talk to strangers every single day now
@johnadams6249
My tip, go work at a grocery as a cashier. Forces you to meet lots of people, and all kinds of people. Really helped me with my interactions with people.
@ahalfemptycup
As someone who has gone from extreme isolation and social anxiety to becoming quite the social butterfly, i relate strongly to chapter 3 "curiosity as a superpower". I was just as mindblown as you when i doscovered that that's what actually made all the difference between a smooth social interaction and an awkward one. To this day if i am not genuinely curious about someone then i know the encounter is going to be awkward (though i can handle awkwardness way better now and don't let it get to my head)
@KnowBrain-FixHabit
Wow, this isn’t just about social skills—it’s a full upgrade for how we connect as humans. Every chapter hit deep.🔥
@swordoflorn
70/30 is impossible when both parties are trying do 70/30, it just causes silence But holy crap that was a good video
@empresslithia
Thank you for giving a one-stop full lesson again. Those who're asking for shorter videos are really missing the value of your condensed insights.
@AS-cc4nc