@EpiicxFuziion
Since my massive burnout I can’t even leave my house unless absolutely necessary. And when I do, I have to drink to be able to cope with the anxiety. I feel like such a failure even though I’ve bought my own house and raised two amazing kids single-handedly, all while being autistic and not knowing it.. I was diagnosed at 49.
@recoveringsoul755
One thing i learned from hiking and backpacking, is that the slowest person is working the hardest. The ones at the front, its easy for them. They may wrongly believe the slowest person is being lazy. But the slowest person is trying the hardest, trying to keep up, mad at themselves for being slower, beating themselves up mentally and wondering why it's so hard, wondering why they even came at all. Its hard to enjoy. And when everyone else stops to rest, as soon as the straggler finally catches up, they say "finally!" And they get going again. So the slow person never gets to rest. Its exhausting and they need more breaks because it just takes us longer.
@nee-na6874
Paul, the difference between your videos and others is your presentation... The others are a LOT of "information" (clinical, bullet points, "defining words", etc.), which can be important; however, you talk about "real life", thoughts, feelings, reactions, and EXPLAIN it in a VERY relatable and practical way. Plus the fact I am an older adult who has had ALL the life experiences of being neurodivergent, and trying to swim upstream my entire long life just to survive through MANY major traumatic events. It is indeed amazing that I made it to 67 now that I look back on my life. Your voice is very calm and I can listen without stress. I used to live in England with my late husband, and when I was there I started learning about how "different" I was, not just because I was living in a different country. I am on the spectrum full stop. Now I know that and your videos are helpful for me during this challenging time of "reframing" my whole life, and that's a lot. I am having a hard stressful time right now because I have had a lot of extra responsibilities added recently (still very busy with family responsibility even though "retired"). I feel like I am in burnout AGAIN and have had a number of meltdowns in the past few months. I agree, I want to be useful and productive but I also have limitations now too. What you said about London, I agree, that was stressful for me, and I feel the same way here in Texas about going back to Houston (several million people), but I just can't cope with doing Houston anymore. I applaud your "standard", doing your best. That's how I feel about what I am doing with my "big little country life", and also trying to find the balance of taking care of myself too, as much as I possibly can (if it does not cost too much). All the best 😊
@ildyivy
U have inspired me to start my own channel on having survived with undiagnosed autism. It hasn’t been fully living but surviving, and the added complication of having had grown up in abusive environment, deprivation, poverty, also which compounded the issues I’m sure.
@MartKart8
I thought about when you mentioned how society has expectations, I feel like I.T is a forced onto people, and they have to understand how to code, I can't code it's to hard. I did find I liked using the modelling software, I used a free one called Blender, I uploaded a 12 second video online of a duck with headphones I modelled, I was surprised to get over 150 views, close to the 2nd day got over 1k people viewed it, and people kept commenting saying duck a lot, a total of 2.1k have viewed my duck with headphones on. I did learn people that code struggle with modelling, and people that model struggle with coding.
@BuntesEinhorn
I've had a boss tell me to not give 170% all the time, but sometimes only 110%. I don't know how though, I want to do the best job that I can. At the time I had no idea how to do less or care less. And of course, when I do a good job, there will be more and more things to do. Like you say, the weight becomes more and more until it is too much and the brain says NO. I never understood what had happened back then until now. Thank you for showing up here and doing this work!
@myworldautistic6839
Looking after yourself is the most important thing you can do. You can't help anyone else unless you help you first. ❤
@magical.little.treehugger
Without the ADHD meds I went onto last year, every single day is like wading through treacle due to AuDHD and other health conditions.........but with them they keep kinda pushing me on in unhealthy ways at times..... finding the balance is proving elusive so far......
@TheYangnyin
The water analogy is perfect for my work situation. They keep adding new steps to protocols and more tasks.. it's getting to be very challenging to deal with.
@Milehighshred
I'm self-employed, and I have a VERY hard time dealing with burnout. I honestly don't know what to do most of the time. I basically go hard, add more and more tasks, then completely crash. I'm still trying to figure out this job that yes, I put on myself. Hell... I'm still trying to figure out this life!
@pauldickson6858
My name is Paul also and I just got diagnosed with autism a few days ago at the age of 38. Been watching your videos alot lately Paul. Thank you for your videos!
@Jazzylou98
I haven't been officially diagnosed yet but I can relate to you sooo much
@TheWilliamHoganExperience
12:11 “I remember how I felt the morning I woke up and I just couldn’t do it anymore” Wow…that brought tears to my eyes brother. I remember to. It happened over 15 years ago now. I had no idea I was autistic at the time. I just knew I was done. What followed was worse than I can possibly describe. Worse worse than anything anyone who hasn’t experienced it can possibly imagine so bad I wouldn’t wish it on the worst person who’s ever lived. Ketamine infusion therapy stopped the suicidal thoughts and panic attacks and crushing anxiety and depression in 2018. In 2020 my girlfriend suggested by way of love and acceptance that I was autistic. I had no idea, but started researching the subject. And I immediately saw myselfin people like you. It strikes me that all of the difficulties you have described thus far stem from external burdens placed on you unwittingly by others. It’s been two years since my diagnosis. During that time I’ve spent hours every day viewing content like yours, trying to understand autism, and how it impacts Autistic people like us. The greatest gift of diagnosis has been finding out that I’m not alone. That I never was. You are not alone either my friend. Sometimes we have to withdraw from the world. Because the world is too much for us.
@fishergordon2382
We need a four day work week, Everybody.
@magical.little.treehugger
I'd been surfing Autistic /overall burnout since the hectic long work shifts at a meat factory at Christmas, and I was REALLY proud of myself for not succumbing to actually stopping! So yeah.....got made redundant in April when the company went bust, but I'd already hit EXTREME meltdown point a week before that and got myself signed off sick thinking I'd be ok again in a few weeks. Yeah...... that's gone well 😉....... lost my routine, can't get myself into a new one and generally not letting myself rest as much as I should be cos my ADHD part of my brain won't let me even tho the Autistic side is gently nudging it to tell it "we need to rest......"
@nayaleezy
My journey in autism right now is finding the sense for activity and boundaries that put smile on my face, and energy in my body. Currently in a burnout, have shed much of the cognitive depression, it's mostly literally just physical and emotional burnout now.
@NickSBailey
Good analogy can definitely relate to that. The frustrating thing I've found with burnout is I often feel great and full of energy just prior to the crash, it's a trap that's hard to spot, it's been a slow recovery this time 6 years and still ongoing but feeling progress now
@dymondmalmstrom7621
You remind me of myself love your presentation. It messed up how one event within a day can ruin someone for the rest of it.
@md8955
I really hope that your videos help you yourself as much as me and undoubtedly many others ✌️
@AutisticlyRose