@AfterSkool
“One definition of maturity is lengthening the gap between impulse and action”. What a powerful idea.
@1fty
"The ability to manage emotions is linked with the ability to pay attention." I felt that!
@Heleno_RR
"The exercise is not keeping your mind focused (...) it's: when it wanders, bring it back". The most spot on, clearest, simplest, most brilliant approach to defining meditation I've ever seen. This right here is the moment I've finally got it. Thank you.
@simonjohnson2897
I watched this talk seven years after it was posted. Demands for our attention have increased significantly since then and it’s likely to get worse. I deleted all my social media accounts some years ago and have never regretted it
@justicecrying
After 8 years this has become even more relevant to us!
@jigneshpadia
1. Performance peaks at 110% of attention or mindfulness. 2. Focus can help with mastery. 3. Mind wandering can be good when looking for a creative solutions. 4. Poor attention results in distraction which in turn results in stress. 5. There are three types of Empathy. Empathetic concerns, cognitive and emotional. 6. Paying attention is a rare commodity these days. 7. It can be improved through practice. Its like a muscle. 8. Use breathing buddy for kids to help with mindfulness practice 9. Practicing breathing can help gaining more attention and mindfulness. Focus on breath. 10. Manage emotions – Red, Yellow, Green.
@kyul9357
I happened onto this video while I was driving during a particularly frazzled period. I was driving to distract myself so I drove for a couple of hours which allowed me to listen to the entire lecture. When the video arrived at the part about how breathing exercise shifts the brains activity from right to left, I began to focus on my breath for the next 30 minutes. By the time my drive ended, my frazzled state dissipated. I left so relieved. Thank you Mr Goleman!
@jenselee7878
I'm very certain he knows what he is talking about because his Performance as a presenter is very great which means he needs to have good focus. He is very charismatic.
@patrickknight6542
The skill with which Goleman handles the horrifying racism of the first question was masterful! I wonder if the guy asking it had any realization that he had just been put in his place.
@dbsk06
That was the best and most polished and polite response to a question that was posed out of preexisting anger and ideology that was not actually intended to improving understanding but reaffirming the questioner’s existing views.
@anisakhan998
Wow the way this man answerred that first question was with pure cognitive empathy that he talked about through this podcast. Love him
@DasypusN
How is it that this man takes so many of the topics I find the most interesting in the world today and has united them in the first 37 minutes of this lecture??? We are often so aware of the dark side of the internet but the access to this kind of insight at the touch of a key is something to be deeply grateful for and will maybe help us find our way out of the confusion of today's world. Thank you Google and the architects of the internet, Daniel Goleman, and all the humans who have contributed to the ideas he talks about in this lecture. Most importantly I am so glad there are so many of you out there- currently 1,741,574 of you- who take the time to pay attention!
@thompenjlester8109
Lecture notes for those who don't have time Daniel goleman focus lecture 1. full mutual attention-no distractions/focus. emotional or physical distractions 2.nonverbal synchrony-choreograph your body language w/ the other person 3.feel good -focus on the task at hand, not whats upsetting you -dont disengage, always engage -be aware of the bigger picture cognitive empathy i understand how you think of things, necessary if you want to resonate with somebody emotional empathy immediate perception of how the other person is feeling empathetic concern predisposition to help -mindfulness breathing-returning to the breath improves focus and attention -emotions are contagious. your calmness will make others calmer -learn to delay gratification -in a group setting people pay the most attention to what the most powerful person says or does -pessimism can lead to depression -turn pessimistic attitudes like "Im stupid", into something like "the situation was stupid" and keep at it, being vigilant about any negative thoughts that arrive -cultivate the habit of seeing what is right in every situation instead of what is wrong -the more involved and passionate you are about something, and its valued the greater the 'flow' -if your frazzled, meditate/workout before the stressor and everyday
@kyraocity
14:00 Neurobiology of frazzle 50% of time the mind wanders. Not engaged? Cortisol levels are too low. 15:20 Mind wandering is anti correlated to flow. Essential for insight. 16:00 make connections to remote values in a new way = creativity 18:46 somatic markers. Language of the body. 19:30 inner ethical awareness 21:50 Three kinds of empathy. Cognitive. Emotional. Empathic concern. 23:40 outer focus. systems view. Understanding what’s going on in the world outside you. 3rd kind of focus. 3 kinds. Inner. Other. Outer. 25:36 increase attention. Sit up and notice your breathe cycles slowly and with full awareness. Lose focus? Gently restart again. The exercise is bringing your attention back after it wanders. This is a rep for growth. Habituation is what the brain does. Orienting is opening up. It excites the brain. See Hit makers for just enough difference to orient at will. 30:00 mindfulness 8 weeks 30 mins a day. 31:00 Childhood has changed. A loss of focus. Constant distraction. 32:25 Brain is part organ to develop. Repeated experience shapes the brain. This is how neuro plasticity in circuitry grows. Are we helping children’s brain grow in the best ways? Breathing buddies. Strengthening the attention muscle. Regulating emotion. 35:13 Social emotional learning. SEL. To handle themselves and their relationships 36:30 Red light. Yellow light. Green light. Can’t control how emotions come but you can lengthen the period between emotion and response. Marshmallow test. If you’re not able to mange your impulse you can’t learn as well. 40:00 SEL + relationships. Put ups is a way to handle put downs. 45:15 Cookie Monster can’t restrain himself. 2-4 y/o learn by modeling. 50:48 emotions are contagious
@TechyTubeDotCom
Goleman reminded me listening is an enjoyable experience. Speakers should use him as a model on how to convey ideas. Amazing teacher.
@Kingobstgarten1999
My god this was 2013. The phone situation has become even worse
@runningsamurai7962
Daniel Goleman gave a masterclass in emotional intelligence in his response to the ridiculous first question about "rubbish" culture and the role genetics play in poor neighborhoods
@johnchateau
interesting quote Professor Goleman: " attention is a rare commodity, but its a precious commodity" in this current world absolutely true
@abirroy1333
An extraordinary mind with upmost humility. Truly a heavenly companion. Your lecture was no less than a beautiful orchestra. Really humbled by your teachings
@Intelligence-Squared