@aliceanneacts6164
I work with folks on the spectrum. It’s challenging because one person’s stim is another person’s trigger…
@chey7691
I feel like the people who created Food chewing/whispering/tapping ASMR did it solely to prove we live on a plane of torment. Well it certainly feels like it when I'm falling asleep to rain or something similar and it pops up in auto play. Blasting me awake like a twelve gauge outside my door.
@KittyInTheGarden
unfortunately it's not normally well received telling someone not to breathe 🙄
@SeriouslyJaded
Noise cancelling headphones are the best invention ever.
@myshatteredsoul1
I literally just moved my entire family to another county because I couldn’t stand listening to our neighbors blasting loud obnoxious thumping bass from their car parked on the street outside our house. I’d beg them to stop and they’d retaliate by turning it up louder. They were renters, so I reached out to their landlord, and they also did nothing. It was pure torture and torment, because I couldn’t go home to get away from it, because I WAS home. I could literally FEEL the thumping bass throughout my whole body and it rattled my windows and shook my floors, it was THAT loud. My husband (even though I don’t think this was his intent) invalidated my feelings by saying things like “well none of our other neighbors are bothered by it!”. 😤 He’d also say things like “well it’s the middle of the day and they’re not doing anything wrong so you need to get over it!”. Just because you CAN do something doesn’t mean you SHOULD do something. Personally I think people are entitled to peace in THEIR OWN HOMES no matter the hour of the day…but that’s just me. Obviously this is a very deep issue for me.
@bakakafka4428
I didn't hear 'murderous intent' as a feeling when hearing specific sounds. Which is what I feel when people make eating sounds...😅
@nightnurse7777
I feel this way about the sounds children make. I always wondered if parents just lost their hearing when they had them. I never had them and have never regretted it. I am well over 50 and still can't stand to be around them.
@CymricGamez
upstairs neighbor stomping and vibrating the entire building. and the fact that they walk 150% the speed of a normal person
@TinyCatSpoons
I have had misophonia for as long as I can remember. My trigger sounds have never changed in the 30+ years I can remember having them. I tried for years to explain to others what I was experiencing and people just didn’t understand or have any empathy. I learned about it a few years ago and it was so validating to know it was actually a thing. Thank you for talking about this- it honestly has caused me so much anxiety and distress. I changed my whole life to avoid my trigger sounds. It caused relationships to end and friendships to fall apart. People couldn’t understand that it wasn’t just me not liking the sound, or being dramatic. It physically felt like being set on fire and it made me feel nauseous (I sometimes reflexively gag or shiver) and it emotionally enraged me, which was so disconcerting for myself and everyone around me because I’m normally such a calm and mild tempered person. Even in public, I would cover my ears and run from the sound if I heard it. The anxiety I felt when I thought I may hear my trigger sounds was torture. I avoided certain kinds of movies that I knew would have the sound in them. I avoided certain places where I may hear it. It was horrible. I tried CBT and it made everything so much worse. I lived in an environment where I was exposed to my triggers almost daily and my anxiety and reactions to them got more intense. Thankfully now I am living alone and have control over my safe space and am not in constant fear of hearing my triggers I feel much better. I have learned some DBT skills and got some earplugs for when I’m in a place I may hear my triggers. Even if I do hear them, because I’m not in constant state of anxiety or being exposed to them, it’s still viscerally unpleasant but the feeling is less intense and passes more quickly. I wish I’d known about all of this 30 years ago. Understanding myself and autism has been a heck of a journey this last year and it’s been both the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done. Thank you again for talking about this. I need to go have a cathartic cry and enjoy the feeling of being seen and understood. It’s a rare delicacy for us late diagnosed autistics.
@sahelhappenstance8992
Sadly, I dont think it's possible for anyone who doesn't have misophonia to truly understand it. I've locked myself in a school bathroom and slammed my head into the wall because I had a teacher who wouldnt stop chewing gum in class no matter how many times I tried to explain it to her, and after that, even my family still believed I was just being dramatic. Everyone has sounds and other stimuli that bother them. But there is a huge difference between being annoyed by a sound, versus that sound literally driving you to self injury.
@rycarr
A “weird one” that really irks me is the slapping sound of flip flops as someone walks around. There were a lot of sounds that really got under my skin as a kid. But I didn’t express my frustration properly and got in trouble a lot for disproportionate responses. Usually anger.
@brokenbutworthy308
A weird one I've experienced is when somebody is talking and they CLEARLY need to clear their throat and they DONT..... and they KEEP. TALKING. 🤨🤨🤨🤨
@zombiesusi
Lawnmowers, leaf blowers, car and motorcycle engines, car doors slamming, walking in the stairway, kid sounds, yelling, breaks squeaking, smacking, certain kind of whispering (for example asmr videos) = 😡⚰😡⚰😡 Most of these are everyday sounds in blocks of flats. Can't afford my own house in the countryside. Life is hell. 🤣
@zZmoodlleZz
THE FORK SCRATCHING THE PLATE IS SO BADDD 😭😭💀💀 but what really gets me is chewing. Not the crunchy chewing, but specifically the like creamy food or like soft food chewing. When it hate it with all types of chewing, IS WHEN THEY BREATH LOUDLY WHILE CHEWING LOUDLY ITS THE WORST IT MAKES ME ALMOST GET A HEADACHE JUST THINKING ABOUT IT AAAA 😭😭
@NotAsItSeems
Those exaggerated sounds that the “influencers” use on their videos for TikTok and Reels! I’ve always wondered too why certain noises in movies and tv shows would bother me. Now that I’m diagnosed, it all makes sense.
@Crocogator
Sudden shrieking laughter. God. DAMN.
@Smoore-bv2wb
I didn't actually realize that there was a specific name for this sensation. It saddens me because I have discussed this issue in therapy multiple times, and it has always been related to generalized anxiety. I feel very seen knowing that there is a name for this and that others experience this sensation as well ❤️
@ScottRyan-Akhi23
Love the channel, thanks so much! I am a 57 year old man living in Montreal who is undiagnosed(self-diagnosed) with Autism and ADHD. Why not get clinically diagnosed? Don't have the resources for private and the mental health care in this city is abysmal(I've tried)THAT said its only through research and channels like yours that I've realized over the last couple of years I check most of the boxes in both categories and have struggled my whole life. NOT stupid, NOT lazy. VERY challenged by this brain. As for sound-I'm a musician who can't listen to music anymore. Unless it's mellow and of MY choosing, music out in the world just about sets me crazy. Now the LIST: Babies Crying(THIS one causes immediate Anger and flee response while trying to think BE compassionate-the baby is just unhappy or uncomfortable) Children Shrieking and laughing in the school yard Ambulance and Fire Truck Sirens Sudden loud booms from say- a garbage truck Loud(obnoxious)motorcycles and cars Flip-Flops Flapping Snoring ETC, Etc, Etc...... I DO however love Thunder, even when it causes a major jump. The struggle IS REAL fine friends. Take care.
@plutoniumlollie9574
Shrieking children cause me physical pain. Also horrible are the sounds of cutlery dropped on a plate or when people breathe with their mouths. But I sleep well with the distance sound of a lawn mower.
@cubstep1944